According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
At 83, This Star’s Stunning Transformation After Facial Surgery Will Leave You Speechless
At 83, this legendary star remains as vibrant as ever. After a dangerous fall in her early 30s that required facial surgery, she’s still living life to the fullest — even riding a lavender Harley. Her story is one of resilience, transformation, and an unshakeable love for life.
Over the years, she has secured her place in entertainment history. While other stars from her time have slowed down, she has continued moving forward in every possible way. However, beneath her graceful appearance lies a powerful tale of survival.
Defying expectations, she continues to thrive well into her 80s. Long before her resilience became known, the star had already captivated audiences in the ’60s with her beauty and charm. Let’s take a look at how she shone in her early years.
The legendary star was stunning in the 1960s and 1970s. She dazzled on screen, winning hearts with her performances.
The Accident That Almost Changed Everything
In September 1972, disaster struck during what should have been another fantastic performance. Just before she was set to go on stage at a Lake Tahoe casino, she fell 22 feet from a platform, hitting the ground hard.
The impact caused multiple facial fractures, a broken jaw, a concussion, and a broken arm. Witnesses said it was a terrifying scene, and many feared her dancing career was over, but thankfully, her knee was not injured.
She was rushed to U.C.L.A. Medical Center, where doctors worked for three hours to fix the damage to her face. The surgery was successful, but many wondered if she would return to her former glory.
The actress was famous for her beauty and talent, and with her severe injuries, some thought this might be the end of her time in the spotlight. But rather than retreat, she faced this challenge head-on.
Private Battles and Public Victories
She didn’t just return to the spotlight after recovering — she thrived. The surgery did not stop her career, and she quickly proved everyone wrong about her future in show business. By 1973, she was back in action, playing Mrs. Lowe in “The Train Robbers.”
Her work after the accident made her a versatile performer. By 1975, she earned two Oscar nominations. In the 1980s, she received six Emmy nominations, showing her talent went far beyond her early days as a sex symbol.
While her career flourished, her personal life faced challenges. In 1985, she shared her struggles with infertility. Despite trying various treatments, she and her husband, Roger Smith, could not have children of their own.
The couple raised Smith’s three children from a previous marriage, but she still hoped for a child, believing that whatever was meant to be would be. She often quoted the serenity prayer, asking for peace to accept what she could not change.
Even while dealing with these personal issues, she continued to shine in public. In the 1990s, she remained a star, proving her lasting appeal.
A Reserved Star in the Spotlight: The 2001 Interview
By 2001, she had spent four decades captivating audiences with her talents, yet she remained reserved. In an interview with The Washington Post, she kept the conversation brief.
After just 25 minutes, she ended the session, politely saying, “That’s enough. Don’t you think that’s enough?” Although she didn’t want to say much, her long career spoke for itself. She had made a name for herself across movies, nightclubs, television, and live performances.
Throughout the years, she faced injuries, depression, alcoholism, and infertility but continued to be a survivor. Reinvention was part of her career, reflecting her resilience. Her reserved nature, linked to her Swedish upbringing, made her private about certain topics.
She kept her personal life guarded, especially regarding her rumored relationship with Elvis Presley. Friends noted that she shut down when that topic was brought up.
While she was private about her life, she loved talking about animals and her passion for motorcycles. At the time of the interview, she was touring in a 45-city production of “The Best Little Whorehouse in Texas,” even after suffering injuries in a motorcycle accident the year before.
Although her patience with the media was limited, her stunning green eyes showed her passion and drive. She preferred to keep parts of her life private.
A Life of Speed and Grace in Her 80s
Now in her 80s, Ann-Margret shows no signs of slowing down. Earlier this year, at the Women’s Image Network’s 25th Awards in February 2024, she received the Living Legend Award. In her speech, she reflected on her life and expressed gratitude for the unexpected blessings.
“I am so blessed. I just can’t believe all the things that have happened to me,” Ann-Margret said. Even at her age, she remains vibrant and energetic, especially with her love for speed.
At the event, she proudly shared that she still rides her lavender Harley Davidson, decorated with white daisies. “I love the speed,” she said with a smile.
Ann-Margret’s reflections were full of life, showing that while she may take moments to reflect, she is not done living life to the fullest. From her rise to fame to her more recent joys, she embraces every opportunity that comes her way.
Fans continue to admire her beauty and grace, with comments like “A timeless beauty ,” “Beautiful lady now and always,” and “Still a beautiful, lovely & classy lady!♥️.”
As she rides through life, both literally and figuratively, Ann-Margret inspires many with her strength and passion. From her early days as a Hollywood star to her ongoing journey at 83, she shows that beauty, grace, and talent do not fade with time.
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