According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
The Benefits of Solving Puzzles
Puzzles have always captivated the minds of intellectuals, and it’s no wonder why. They come in all shapes and sizes, from simple ones to mind-bogglingly difficult ones. Some puzzles remain unsolved to this day, which adds to the endless fascination for those who love a good challenge.
But puzzles aren’t just for puzzle enthusiasts. They offer incredible benefits for everyone, regardless of their preference. Solving puzzles is like a workout for the mind, keeping it sharp and agile. It trains the brain to approach problems from different angles and encourages creative thinking to find solutions.
The Puzzle that Stumped the Internet
One particular puzzle has taken the internet by storm, leaving many scratching their heads. At first glance, it seems like an ordinary picture of numbers from 1 to 15 neatly arranged. The challenge is to find the error and repost the image. Seems simple enough, right?
But as you search for the error, you realize something strange. The numbers are perfect, with no missing or incorrect ones. You examine them closely, looking for a hidden pattern or sequencing, but find nothing. They are perfectly arranged.
At this point, you start thinking outside the box. Maybe the error lies in the absence of zero? Or perhaps the number sixteen should be included? Or is it something else entirely? You analyze every detail, from the spacing to the shape of the numbers. But the answer continues to elude you.
Then, it hits you. The mistake isn’t in the numbers at all. It’s in the sentence below, asking you to find the ‘mitsake’ instead of the error. Clever, isn’t it? Most people are so focused on the numbers that they completely miss the misspelled word.
The Lesson of the Puzzle
This puzzle teaches us an important lesson – sometimes we need to look at the bigger picture to find the solution. We get so caught up in the details that we miss the obvious. By training our minds to see beyond the surface, we become better problem solvers.
The Far-Reaching Benefits
The benefits of solving puzzles are far-reaching. Research has shown that they improve memory, especially short-term memory. Puzzles challenge our minds to think quickly, enhancing mental processes and strengthening the connections between brain cells.
Moreover, puzzles develop our analytical skills. They require logical and critical thinking, as well as creativity. Just like the puzzle we encountered earlier, they teach us to analyze the whole picture and think outside the box. These skills can be applied to everyday life, helping us solve problems that have no obvious solutions.
In fact, the ability to think analytically is highly valued in the workforce. It sets individuals apart, making them stand out in areas like leadership and management. By cultivating the habit of solving puzzles, we can enhance ourselves with these sought-after skills.
So, the next time you come across a puzzle, take a moment to embrace the challenge. Whether it’s a crossword, Sudoku, or a mind-bending riddle, you’ll be exercising your mind and reaping the countless benefits. Happy puzzling!
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