According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
Rescuers Find Scared, Injured Pup Trying To Hide Himself From Humans In A Bag
In a heart-wrenching scene that unfolded in a bustling city, a cry for help echoed through the streets—a plea for mercy from a scared and injured puppy, hidden away in a desperate attempt to shield himself from the world.
The call came to Animal Aid, an organization dedicated to the welfare of animals in distress. With urgency in their hearts, they mobilized their team and set out to rescue the frightened pup from the shadows of fear.
As they approached the scene of the distress, they were met with a sight that pierced their souls—a small, trembling figure cowering beneath a bag, his eyes wide with terror and pain. It was clear that this pup had been through unimaginable suffering, his body bearing the scars of neglect and abuse.
With gentle hands and soothing words, the rescuers sought to coax the pup out from his hiding place, offering reassurance and comfort in the face of his fear. But the pup remained wary, his instincts telling him to retreat further into the darkness.
Undeterred by the challenge before them, the rescuers employed a clever tactic—they used crackers, a simple yet effective lure to entice the pup out into the open. Slowly but surely, the scent of the treats proved irresistible, and with cautious steps, the pup emerged from his hiding spot, his eyes wary but curious.
With a mixture of relief and determination, the rescuers gently scooped up the pup, cradling him in their arms as they whisked him away to safety. And as they arrived at Animal Aid’s facilities, they knew that the journey was far from over—the pup would need extensive medical care and rehabilitation to heal his wounds, both physical and emotional.
But despite the challenges ahead, there was hope in their hearts—for the pup, and for all the animals like him who had been cast aside and forgotten by society. With each passing day, the pup grew stronger and more confident, his spirit buoyed by the love and support of those around him.
And today, thanks to the tireless efforts of Animal Aid and the unwavering kindness of strangers, the once scared and injured pup is thriving—a testament to the resilience of the canine spirit and the power of compassion to transform lives.
So here’s to Jumper, the brave little pup who dared to hope in the face of adversity, and to all the animals who have found solace and sanctuary in the arms of those who care. May their stories inspire us to be kinder, more compassionate beings, and may we never turn a blind eye to those in need.
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