A lot of big, tragic and important things have happened to this wonderful country of ours since April 2014. None of which I have covered. I was too busy writing about hungover parenting, ancient philosophy and my dog Colin.
Out of the 536 columns I have written, 27 were about that guy. Far too few. He is such a good boy, he deserves an article a week.
Today is the end of an era for me, and whenever these final events pop up in our lives, we can’t help but think about the ultimate end.
Everything we do, we will one day do for the last time. That’s why you have to enjoy things while they are around. It’s not just big events like leaving a job, house or loved one either. Whatever moment you happen to be in now, you will never get it back, and you don’t know how many more you have.
Everything we do in life, from eating pizza to spending time with the people we love, to driving, writing, drinking or breathing, we will one day experience for the final time. It might happen tomorrow. This can be either a depressing or an inspiring thought, depending on how you look at it.
A few years back in this column, I interviewed professor of philosophy William B Irvine, of Wright State University, Ohio, on this very topic. He put it this way on a Zoom call: “Recognition of the impermanence of everything in life can invest the things we do with a significance and intensity that would otherwise be absent. The only way we can be truly alive is if we make it our business periodically to entertain thoughts of the end.”
Today’s column is very meaningful to me because it is my last. Like the last night with a lover before she goes overseas. And just like a lover, there have been some half-arsed efforts put in from me over the years. Last week, for example, I spent 750 words moaning about how bad my cricket team is. But the truth is that any of my columns could have been the final. If I had reminded myself every week for the past 10 years that the end is inevitable, I may have been more grateful for having a column and appreciated writing them all as much as I am this one.
While everything we do could have more meaning with a focus on finitude, some things are inherently more worthwhile than others. There is no doubt my column “The pros and cons of wearing Speedos” from November 2022 was less meaningful than most things in this world. That was a waste of everyone’s time. So, if we only have so much time, how do we pick the best things to do?
Well, Oliver Burkeman, the author of Four Thousand Weeks – Time Management For Mortals, suggested this to me in a 2022 column: “Ask yourself, does this choice enlarge me? You usually know on some unspoken level if it does. That’s a good way to distinguish between options.”
With that in mind, I don’t feel great about my 2018 article on “New Zealand’s best hole”. That didn’t enlarge anyone.
There will be people reading this column right now who have loved my writing in the Herald and are sad to see it end. Others will have hated it and are glad to see me go. Many won’t have any opinion at all. But for those in the first camp, I have good news. I have a book coming out on May 28 called A Life Less Punishing – 13 Ways To Love The Life You Got (Allen and Unwin Book Publishers). It’s a deep dive into the history, philosophy and science of not wasting our time lost in anger, loneliness, humiliation, stress, fear, boredom and all the other ways we find to not enjoy perfectly good lives. It’s available for pre-order right now (google it if you’re interested).
A Life Less Punishing took me two years to write and is equivalent in words to 100 of these columns. Which would be a complete nightmare for those in the hate camp, but as I say, great news for those who want more.
Anyway, thanks to the Herald for having me, thanks to the lovely people who make an effort to say nice things to me about my column nearly every day and thanks to the universe for every single second we get.
Bless!
78-year-old Susan Sarandon faces criticism over her fashion choices but delivers an ideal reply to her detractors
Susan Sarandon, a celebrated figure in cinema, stands as a symbol of authenticity and self-expression. With a career that spans several decades, she has mesmerized audiences not only with her acting skills but also with her unwavering commitment to living her truth, both in front of and behind the camera.
From her unforgettable performance in “The Rocky Horror Picture Show” to her Academy Award-winning role in “Dead Man Walking”, Sarandon has made a profound impact on the film industry. Yet, what truly distinguishes her is her fearless embrace of individuality.
In an industry often constricted by rigid standards of beauty and conformity, Sarandon boldly defies these limitations. Recently, when critics criticized her fashion sense as “inappropriate”, she chose a powerful, non-verbal response. Rather than engage in a debate, she shared a striking image of herself confidently showcasing her body in just her underwear, effectively sending a message that she sets her own standards.
Sarandon’s boldness transcends fashion. Now at 78, she embraces the aging process with grace, valuing the moments of life and dismissing societal pressures. Her recipe for maintaining vitality includes a healthy dose of laughter, regular physical activity, nutritious meals, and, naturally, a talented team for her beauty needs.
Beneath her glamorous exterior and numerous accolades lies a woman who forges her own path. Surrounding herself with those who share her zest for life and adventurous spirit, Sarandon refuses to dwell on trivial matters.
In a society that often tries to stifle individuality, Susan Sarandon exemplifies the power of confidence and tenacity. She inspires us to embrace our true selves and pursue our own journeys, regardless of the opinions of others.
As we celebrate Sarandon’s indomitable spirit, let us also learn from her example: choose authenticity over conformity and dare to be unapologetically ourselves. In a world that frequently seeks to suppress uniqueness, Sarandon’s message resonates loudly: be courageous, be bold, and most importantly, stay true to who you are.
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