I take it that everyone of us must navigate our own lives and take responsibility for our decisions? However, it is in our nature as humans to want to help friends who are actually in need. However, what would you do if your friend—the one you always stand by—started confiding in you about all of their issues, repeatedly, and with no sign of stopping? This Reddit member is exactly in that predicament. She wondered if she was managing the matter with her buddy correctly, so she looked to the large internet community for advice.
I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived).
I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance).
Before I had either of my kids, I made sure to have a year’s living expenses saved, then I would take a sabbatical to recover from birth, as well as bond with my kids. While on sabbatical, I still tutor some kids for some extra income.
My friend (34F), just had a baby 2 months ago. She is the breadwinner in her household, and her husband has been unemployed since he was laid off during COVID.
It was great to be pregnant at the same time, as well as having a friend with a newborn. But it has turned sour.
She has been saying how jealous she is of me being able to take off a whole year from work, how she would have loved to not worry about losing their home, how she doesn’t even have a couple hundred dollars in her savings account, let alone a whole year’s worth of living expenses….
I usually ignore it, or brush it off, because I kind of can understand the stress she is under.
Well, starting about 10 days ago, she started hinting at not being able to afford daycare, and any mention of her husband taking care of their kid is brushed off. Then she started remarking on how much free time I must have, which I deflected by saying -truthfully- that being a single mom to a baby and a small kid left me no free time actually.
Then last night she came out with it, and asked if I could “do her a favor” and watch her kid while she’s at work. I was firm, but polite, when I said that I couldn’t, that I am not capable of watching two kids under 6 months.
She started almost begging me, saying she can’t afford daycare, and if she is not back at work, she will lose her job, and they will end up homeless. I again brought up her husband, and she said that he was not good with kids, and isn’t capable of taking care of her kid.
I kept saying no, she kept pushing, until it escalated to her calling me heartless, and me telling her that it’s not my problem she chose to have a kid with a useless man.
Now she blocked me, I am feeling very guilty about what I said, and feeling like an AH.
Two Surprising Reasons William and Kate Are Keeping Their Distance from Harry and Meghan
Tensions in the royal family have been growing for a long time. Here’s a look at the family split and the surprising reasons why Prince William and Princess Kate might not welcome Prince Harry and Meghan Markle back into the royal family.
The British royal family used to seem very close, with Prince William and Harry often seen as best friends. However, that image started to fall apart, especially after Harry married Meghan Markle.
While many people still hope for a reconciliation, sources close to the royals say that the chances are now more uncertain than ever. So, what are the main issues preventing a royal reunion? The answers shed light on the ongoing divide within the family.
How Prince Harry and Meghan Markle’s Relationship with the Royal Family Frayed Over Time
The tensions between Prince Harry and the royal family, especially with his brother Prince William, have been growing for years. What began as a close bond between two brothers turned into a significant rift, made worse by personal issues, family dynamics, and public scrutiny.
By 2019, it was clear that Prince Harry’s relationship with the rest of the royal family, particularly his brother, had reached a breaking point.
This was a tough year for the Duke and Duchess of Sussex as they faced constant media attention, which took a heavy emotional toll on them.
Meghan shared that she felt deep emotional distress because of the ongoing criticism from British tabloids, which Prince Harry noted included a “race element.”
Prince Harry reflected on the trauma of losing his mother, Princess Diana, when he was just 12. He expressed his fears, saying, “I worried that I could lose my wife in the same way.”
By the end of that year, it was obvious that the brothers were heading in very different directions. Tensions had escalated, and Prince Harry shared a specific incident at his Kensington Palace cottage that highlighted the growing divide between them.
Prince Harry described a heated argument in early 2019 where tensions reached a breaking point. He claimed that Prince William became so frustrated that he physically attacked him. What started as a shouting match escalated into a physical confrontation, with Prince Harry ending up on the floor, landing on a dog bowl.
For Harry, this wasn’t just a typical brotherly fight; it was also about defending his wife, as William’s anger was aimed at Meghan.
Prince Harry explained that Prince William had been influenced by his staff and the negative coverage from the tabloids about Meghan. The media’s focus on her being American, biracial, divorced, and an actress only added to the royal family’s concerns.
Harry believed that many of the stories William accepted were unfounded, but they fueled the growing tension between the two brothers.
When Prince Harry introduced Meghan to the royal family in 2016, the reaction wasn’t as positive as he had hoped. King Charles III seemed to like Meghan, but Prince William was skeptical and cautious about the new relationship.
He reportedly dismissed Meghan by calling her “an American actress.” Over time, the distance between the brothers grew. When Meghan and Prince Harry announced they would step back from royal duties in early 2020, it became clear that the rift had deepened.
Their departure shocked the public and caught Prince William off guard, increasing his frustrations. The brothers, who had once been seen as inseparable after their mother’s tragic death, were now living very different lives.
While Prince William focused on his future role as king, Prince Harry chose a new life outside the royal spotlight, putting his family’s well-being first.
In a personal moment from his 2021 memoir, “Spare,” Prince Harry shared his thoughts on his relationship with Prince William. He recalled a meeting where he noticed how much his brother had changed over the years.
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