I take it that everyone of us must navigate our own lives and take responsibility for our decisions? However, it is in our nature as humans to want to help friends who are actually in need. However, what would you do if your friend—the one you always stand by—started confiding in you about all of their issues, repeatedly, and with no sign of stopping? This Reddit member is exactly in that predicament. She wondered if she was managing the matter with her buddy correctly, so she looked to the large internet community for advice.
I(32F) am a single mother of two kids (6M and 5m F). I am a single mother by choice (my kids are donor conceived).
I am lucky enough to have a good job (French teacher in a private school), and a paid off house (parents’ life insurance and inheritance).
Before I had either of my kids, I made sure to have a year’s living expenses saved, then I would take a sabbatical to recover from birth, as well as bond with my kids. While on sabbatical, I still tutor some kids for some extra income.
My friend (34F), just had a baby 2 months ago. She is the breadwinner in her household, and her husband has been unemployed since he was laid off during COVID.
It was great to be pregnant at the same time, as well as having a friend with a newborn. But it has turned sour.
She has been saying how jealous she is of me being able to take off a whole year from work, how she would have loved to not worry about losing their home, how she doesn’t even have a couple hundred dollars in her savings account, let alone a whole year’s worth of living expenses….
I usually ignore it, or brush it off, because I kind of can understand the stress she is under.
Well, starting about 10 days ago, she started hinting at not being able to afford daycare, and any mention of her husband taking care of their kid is brushed off. Then she started remarking on how much free time I must have, which I deflected by saying -truthfully- that being a single mom to a baby and a small kid left me no free time actually.
Then last night she came out with it, and asked if I could “do her a favor” and watch her kid while she’s at work. I was firm, but polite, when I said that I couldn’t, that I am not capable of watching two kids under 6 months.
She started almost begging me, saying she can’t afford daycare, and if she is not back at work, she will lose her job, and they will end up homeless. I again brought up her husband, and she said that he was not good with kids, and isn’t capable of taking care of her kid.
I kept saying no, she kept pushing, until it escalated to her calling me heartless, and me telling her that it’s not my problem she chose to have a kid with a useless man.
Now she blocked me, I am feeling very guilty about what I said, and feeling like an AH.
Poor Nurse Takes Care of 4 Elderly Sisters, Learns Their Will after They All Die
A poor nurse named Cassandra Myers lived a modest life while working at a local hospital. Although nurses generally earn decent wages in America, Cassandra found herself struggling financially because much of her income went toward paying off her late parents’ debts. She resided in her ancestral home, located in a peaceful neighborhood where her only nearby companions were four elderly siblings, all in their 80s.Cassandra often observed these elderly neighbors struggling with daily tasks like carrying groceries, cleaning their house, taking out the trash, and preparing meals. Realizing that they were in need of assistance, she offered her help whenever she returned from her hospital shifts. The four sisters appreciated her efforts and enjoyed her company immensely. One day, the eldest sister, Marie, expressed her gratitude, suggesting they pay Cassandra for her help.
However, Cassandra kindly refused, explaining that she was helping them out of care and not for financial gain. She made it a point to assist them daily, cooking their meals, washing dishes, organizing their medications, and even helping them get dressed. During one dinner together, Cassandra asked why the sisters hadn’t considered moving to a nursing home, where they could receive better care. Clara, one of the sisters, revealed that they had chosen to stay together in their own home rather than be separated in a nursing facility. They valued spending their remaining days surrounded by genuine love and care, which they felt might not be present in a nursing home environment.Understanding their perspective, Cassandra reassured them that she would always be there to help. The sisters were deeply touched by her kindness, with one of them remarking that she was the best neighbor anyone could ask for. Despite her exhaustion from work, Cassandra remained committed to visiting the siblings every day, sharing meals with them and tending to their needs. Sadly, as time passed, the sisters began to pass away one by one. Cassandra mourned each loss deeply and took it upon herself to organize their funerals. After the last sister passed away, Cassandra attended the funeral, where she met a lawyer named Abigail Smith. The lawyer expressed her gratitude to Cassandra for taking care of the sisters and informed her that there was something important she needed to discuss. The following day, Cassandra visited Abigail’s office, where she was handed a document. The lawyer explained that the sisters had children living in nearby states, but these children had not bothered to attend any of the funerals. Hurt by their children’s neglect, the sisters had decided to change their will, leaving everything to Cassandra instead.Cassandra was stunned by this revelation. She never expected to inherit the sisters’ estate, which included money, jewelry, and the house. Although she felt undeserving, Abigail reassured her that the sisters saw her as more of a daughter than their own children, making her the rightful heir. The inheritance was more than enough for Cassandra to pay off her parents’ debts, but the situation became complicated when the sisters’ children learned about the will. Initially, they wanted to contest it in court, but before they could proceed, Attorney Abigail sent them letters from their mothers. These letters, identical for each child, expressed the mothers’ love but also their deep disappointment over being neglected in their later years. The letters explained that the mothers had left their fortune to someone who had been there for them when their children were not. Upon receiving the letters, the children decided to withdraw their lawsuit. They realized how poorly they had treated their mothers and accepted that they did not deserve any part of the inheritance.Though Cassandra never met the sisters’ children, she noticed fresh flowers on the women’s graves each year on their death anniversaries. This small gesture brought her comfort, knowing that the sisters’ children were finally honoring their mothers, even if it was too late.
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