It’s uplifting to witness women supporting each other, whether it’s friends offering help or strangers extending support to those they’ve never met. In this story, a woman quietly left a letter for her ex-boyfriend’s future girlfriend, offering a heads-up about what to anticipate and sharing lessons from her own experience. The new girlfriend shared this moving act of solidarity on Reddit, where she received an outpouring of encouragement and advice from the online community.
She wrote:
“My boyfriend Steve (30m) and I (28f) have been together for 2 years and have been living together for 8 months. I was cleaning our apartment when I found a note in the back of a cabinet that read:
‘Dear Steve’s Future Girlfriend,
I know it’s you reading this because he’d never clean back here. I’m putting this here because I’m leaving him soon and want to warn you about him:
1-He will not clean;
2-He will not listen;
3-He will make everything feel like it’s your fault;
It’s not your fault, he’s just an incompetent man. I’m leaving him, I suggest you do the same.
Best wishes, Natalia'”
She added:
“I read the note and brought it to show to him and hear his response. He immediately ripped it up and said not to listen to it, that she was crazy and untrustworthy. I told him that the fact that he hasn’t found the note in the 5 years since they broke up is a red flag to me because it does mean he’s never cleaned back there and that he has been cleaning less and less since I moved in.
He told me this is just his ex continuing to manipulate and ruin his life, and I was letting it work. We continued to argue along the same lines, and I eventually left to spend the night at a friend’s place.
Steve has been a great boyfriend so far. He gets along with my family. He has given me gifts and flowers and always tells me how much he loves me. He’s not wrong that the cleaning hasn’t really been brought up before, but the note made me realize it had been less and less and that we needed to have a full conversation about this.”
She went on explaining:
“He texted me afterwards saying he’s sorry that I felt like I had to leave, but that it’s a wrong move for me to take a note over our 2-year relationship and to leave him and our pets alone. I don’t know what to do or what to believe right now. I’m contemplating trying to find and reach out to Natalia.
Steve thinks I should come back home and let it go, that his past should not affect our future. He makes it sound like his ex was manipulative and petty throughout their relationship, but I don’t know what to trust.
When we moved in together 8 months ago, the cleaning was 50/50. Since then, he’s been doing things less and less. I have to remind him to do things like to bring his plates to the sink or take out the trash, and I didn’t have to before. The dishes will pile up unless I do them, to the point he’s had leftover food mold on the plates.”
She continued:
“I’m not a confrontational person, so I was just asking him to fix it when it came up. The note made me reflect on it more and try to have an actual full conversation, and I will say I didn’t feel listened to when I talked to him about it.
I tried to use the note to start a conversation about cleaning, and he got so stuck on the fact that I was listening to his ex instead of him, that he wouldn’t listen to what I think are valid concerns. He thinks I’m letting the note have “confirmation bias” so no matter what he says I’ll think he’s in the wrong.
Also, I didn’t leave him permanently, this all happened yesterday and I only spent one night at a friend’s because I didn’t feel like our conversation was going anywhere last night, and he wouldn’t let me sleep until I let it go. I’m going back today and wanted to get advice and feedback before I do.”
Other Redditors chimed in, sharing their own insights and offering advice to her.
- I’m so glad for you. It wasn’t two wasted years since they taught you a valuable lesson. I’m especially grateful for Natalia! Please tell her we love her for her kind solidarity and witty ways. Absolutely, leave a note — but better yet, leave two. One in the same place (he’ll look there; manipulative narcissists aren’t that dumb), and another in an even less likely spot. Sending you my best. You got this, girl! © occasionalpart / Reddit
- Well, he’s not cleaning, he’s not listening to you, and he’s making it out to be your fault “for trusting a note over him.” So, it seems the ex’s assessment might be accurate. It doesn’t look like he’s open to discussing his poor housekeeping, and personally, I don’t think you’ll be able to address it now without the note coming up. Ultimately, it’s up to you to decide whether this is something you can tolerate. It seems he hasn’t learned anything from his last relationship. © VonBoo / Reddit
- You’ve been living together for less than a year, and you’re already having to play mommy, reminding him of basic chores and daily tasks! If Natalia were truly such a manipulative, crazy person, she would have made much harsher and more dramatic accusations than these. © Arya_kidding_me / Reddit
- It’s almost ironic how easy it would have been for him to shut this entire thing down with the simplest of responses: “Hmm, you’re right, I’ll make sure to clean more.” That would have immediately countered points 2 and 3. But he’d rather be right, and he’d rather play the aggrieved party. You didn’t do anything wrong by trying to have a conversation off the back of that note. His reaction should tell you everything. © Mobius_Stripping / Reddit
- I’d be willing to bet money that the note is right. He sounds like the kind of man who will stop doing anything the second he decides a woman is fully trapped. The slow tapering off you’re witnessing is him testing the waters. He needs to figure out whether he just needs to waste enough of your time to get to that stage, or whether you need a ring or a baby to feel trapped. © Extension_Drummer_85 / Reddit
- “Don’t expect to change a man unless he’s in diapers.” This behavior will continue on, he’s gotten away with it before up to a certain point. He wants someone to pick up after him like his mommy.
Any time a guy says, “My ex is/was crazy,” is a MASSIVE red flag right there. It’s something guys have been saying since the dawn of time to belittle their former partners. He’ll say the same thing about you to his next girlfriend. You have to ask yourself, “Was she crazy, or did he drive her crazy with his behavior and laziness?” I’d leave your own note when you do finally dump him. And reach out to his ex, see what she has to say. © Equal-Brilliant2640 / Reddit
When trust is broken between couples, it often leads to a surge of emotional and psychological turmoil, including feelings of uncertainty and profound confusion. In a different scenario, a woman shared a fascinating story of her own sleuthing skills. She discovered her husband was cheating simply by paying close attention to his breakfast order.
Tragic news regarding Frank Fritz
In any case, sir, my spouse used to tell me that I had a behind capable of raising the dead from their graves. I wish to avoid taking any chances.
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Although Frank Fritz’s visage was instantly identifiable on television, his personal life was filled with hardships. This is the tale of his unfortunate events.
The long-lasting friendship between Frank and Diann Bankson eventually turned sour. Frank, who was 25, started seeing her, and the two got engaged in 2017. The following year, they moved in together after buying a farmhouse in Iowa.
Sadly, things became worse when Bankson said she had stepped into their bedroom and found her boyfriend with someone else, accusing her partner of cheating. After this occurrence, their relationship quickly fell apart, which led to Frank becoming an alcoholic, losing his job, and facing more health risks.
Both of them bear the permanent scars of their time together; they will always remember their tumultuous relationship even if they are no longer together.
When Fritz realized that Bankson had cheated on him, he was crushed. For their impending nuptials, he had already bought an expensive ring and a property. Fritz was reminded not to make the same mistake twice by getting a tattoo that said, “Once a cheater, always a cheater.”
He experienced financial and emotional hardship as a result of this tragedy. In an attempt to deal with his heartbreak, he started drinking excessively, which caused his weight to drastically drop. He acknowledged that despite his best efforts, he had been unable to move on from her. Fritz still harbored affections for Bankson and desired a marriage with her in spite of her actions.
Fritz had to take a leave of absence from his host position on the History Channel program American Pickers due to health concerns. The viewers of the show had missed him terribly and were ready for him to come back so they could enjoy it again. After undergoing back surgery and a protracted period of healing and recuperation, Fritz said that he was prepared to tackle his long-running series with all of his might.
Fritz stated that the showrunner had been in touch with him and assured him that he would return, even though there had been no formal statement about his return. However, TMZ claims that Fritz was not given any consideration for a hosting position at this moment.
Meanwhile, Bankson, his ex-girlfriend, has made public her connection to engineering administration manager Eric Longlett. She posted pictures of their recent trip to see Elton John’s farewell show, Yellow Brick Road, on social media with pride, writing, “He took me to see Elton John’s farewell tour, Yellow Brick Road.” I’m a really lucky lady. Sweetie, you are my favorite.
Bankson decided not to return to the show as a co-host, and she announced her new companion at the same time. Fritz had been the show’s host for more than 10 years, so it was evident how involved he was, but there didn’t seem to be any preparations for him to return. She said she was grateful to have found Eric and that she did not want to see Fritz again very soon.
When Fritz’s friend found the young guy unconscious on his home floor on July 4, 2022, it was a horrifying scene. Fritz’s companion promptly reported that he was experiencing a seizure to the emergency services. The US Sun recorded the exchange on camera.
Bill Fritz, Fritz’s father, informed reporters that his son was making great progress since being admitted to the hospital and was doing well despite his illness. But the journey was not without difficulties; upon discharge from the hospital, he was placed under custody and sent into a skilled nursing facility to receive additional rehabilitation.
One of Fritz’s longtime friends is said to have sought for and subsequently been granted formal guardianship rights over him in early August 2022 as part of an emergency appointment that also included conservatorship procedures. If the ward is ill or disabled and cannot make decisions for themselves, this procedure enables another person to act on their behalf.
The bank was designated as his conservator and his buddy as his guardian, with the responsibility of monitoring and managing his funds. This implied that all payments for his care facility, including property taxes, maintenance fees, health insurance, and medical treatments, were the bank’s responsibility.
In addition, they would be in charge of getting him to and from events and doctor’s visits. He had to submit a “initial care plan,” which includes involvement in decision-making since the stroke, in order to be designated as his friend’s guardian.
Furthermore, the wishes of the person or, if applicable, his family members must be reflected in all decisions made on his behalf. The bank would have to guarantee that all necessary measures are taken to guarantee his welfare and that any obligations are fulfilled on schedule.
It was just recently established that popular television show host Frank Fritz required a conservator and guardian after records made this clear.
In order to give Frank the care he needs, his designated guardian must make decisions regarding his living arrangement, place of residence, health, and medical needs. They also have to make decisions regarding Frank’s participation in activities and keep lines of communication open with his loved ones, potential suitors, and other relevant parties.
In addition to these duties, the guardian is required to provide an annual report outlining their success in taking care of Frank. Given the seriousness of his illness, it seemed unlikely that he could make wise financial or medical decisions without putting himself in more peril.
Fritz’s neglectful actions could have caused him physical or mental harm, thus it was obvious that he needed a guardian to keep him safe.
The court decided that Fritz needed a guardian to keep him safe and gave them control over some areas of his life while he got the medical attention he needed for his wounds.
Everyone involved in this case has experienced pain, and all we can hope is that Frank heals swiftly enough to begin making his own decisions. I hope the cherished TV show presenter makes a full recovery, and I want you to tell your friends and family about this tale.
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