Debbie, living in a quiet neighborhood, becomes close to her elderly neighbor, Mrs. Jenkins, and begins to care for her. But when Deb’s mother has to undergo surgery, she has no option but to go home and care for her mother… only for her to receive a horrible phone call from Steve, Mrs. Jenkins’ son, accusing her of not doing enough.
Look, I didn’t want revenge on anybody, especially not for just being kind to an elderly neighbor.
I live in a quiet neighborhood, and my next-door neighbor, Mrs. Jenkins, is an 82-year-old widow. She’s frail, lonely, and honestly, sad. It’s like she’s been forgotten by her own family. Her only son, Steve, lives just 20 minutes away but rarely visits.
Whenever I saw her on the porch, she seemed so lost, staring off into the distance. My heart went out to her, so I started helping where I could.
For over a year, I’ve been running small errands. Groceries, appointments, clearing her driveway of leaves in the fall and snow in the winter.
“I don’t know what I’d do without you, Debbie,” she said to me one morning after I dropped off her groceries, including some freshly baked bread for her breakfast.
“I’m here for anything you need, Marlene,” I said.
Honestly, it wasn’t much, but I felt good knowing that I was helping. Especially since her real family was so absent.
“Steve?” she said one day when I asked about him. “That kid means everything to me, but I know I don’t mean as much to my son. It’s okay. You’re here.”
She would always smile like I was her favorite person.
This man, who barely knew his mother’s daily life, had the audacity to accuse me of not doing enough.
But things took a dark turn when I had to leave town for a few weeks. I couldn’t help it, my mother was in the hospital after being diagnosed with fibroids and cysts that needed to be removed.
I had to be there with her. There was no way about it.
“I’m coming, Mom,” I said. “Don’t you worry about a thing.”
“But, Deb,” my mother whined. “I don’t want to disturb your routine. Dad’s here, I’ll be fine with him.”
“Mom, I work from home. I can work from anywhere,” I said sternly. “And anyway, Dad’s idea of taking care of someone is making chicken noodle soup. That’s pretty much it. You’re going for invasive surgery. You need me.”
Before I left, I stocked Mrs. Jenkins’ house with groceries, made sure that she had everything she needed, and asked our neighbor Karen to check in on her from time to time.
“I’ll be back as soon as I can, Marlene,” I said. “Don’t you worry about a thing. And I’ve asked little Josh to come over and check your mail. He knows that if there’s anything in your mailbox, he has to bring it right to you.”
“Thank you, darling,” she said. “You’re too good to me.”
I thought I’d covered all my bases.
Ten days into my stay with my parents, my phone rang while I was cooking dinner. I didn’t recognize the number, but I picked up anyway.
“Debbie?” the voice snapped when I answered. “Are you the neighbor who’s supposed to be taking care of my mom?”
It was Steve. Mrs. Jenkins’ son. The man who barely showed up for his own mother.
For a second, I got nervous, hoping that nothing had happened to her.
“I just got a call from my mother,” he continued, not even stopping for me to speak. “She ran out of milk. And you’re out of town? Why didn’t you make sure she had enough before you left?”
I was absolutely floored. This man, who barely knew his mother’s daily life, had the audacity to accuse me of not doing enough.
Me?
“Steve,” I said, trying to remain calm. “I’m out of town because my mom is in the hospital. This is where I need to be. I stocked your mom up before I left. And I spoke to Karen, our neighbor, to check on her.”
Instead of apologizing or offering to help like any normal person, he shot back.
“Well, that’s just not good enough, Debbie. If you’re going to take care of my mother, then you need to do it right! I can’t be running around getting her things whenever you drop the ball.”
I almost screamed. The audacity of this man was astounding.
How could he accuse me of dropping the ball when I’d been doing everything for her? Especially while he sat back and did nothing!
I took a deep breath.
“Steve, she’s your mother. You can’t expect me to do everything for her while you’re right there, and do nothing! Maybe you should help her out for once.”
His response was just sad.
“You’re pathetic,” he said. “You don’t even do that much for her.”
Before I could retaliate, I just cut the call. I didn’t want to say anything worse, and I also didn’t want to risk it getting back to Marlene and upsetting her.
Later, as I sat with my mom in her hospital room, I couldn’t stop replaying that conversation. By the time I got home, I knew exactly what I needed to do.
“Go home, honey,” my mother said when I told her about Steve’s phone call. “I’m doing just fine, and my progress is great. The doctor is really happy with me. I told you, Dad and I will be fine!”
I really didn’t want to leave, but I missed my own home. And I missed working from my own space, too. So, I left a few days later.
When I got back, the first thing I did was check on Mrs. Jenkins. Thankfully, she was fine. It turns out that Karen had taken care of the milk situation, and Mrs. Jenkins had no idea about the chaos Steve had stirred up.
“What? Really? He said that?” she exclaimed, shocked.
Steve had to step up. He was not happy about it. Not at all.
As glad as I was that Steve hadn’t fed her any stories about me, I wasn’t going to allow him to get away with this.
The next day, I gently told Mrs. Jenkins that I wouldn’t be able to help her as much anymore.
“I have other commitments, Marlene,” I said sadly. “I have to check on my mother more often, too. She’s going to need me for the next few weeks.”
She looked disappointed, but she reassured me that she understood.
A few weeks went by, and Steve had no choice but to step up. Naturally, he wasn’t happy about it. Sometimes, as I worked from my living room, I could see him showing up to his mother’s house. He always looked irritated, like running an errand for his mother was the biggest burden anyone could have placed on him.
When I did visit Mrs. Jenkins next, she smiled and told me that she was relying on Steve more.
“I call him for everything,” she said. “Milk, teabags, and even help with the gutters.”
One afternoon, Mrs. Jenkins asked me to help her sort through some old papers. That’s when we stumbled upon her will.
Naturally, Steve was listed as the sole beneficiary.
“It’s a shame that Steve cannot spend more time with you,” I said casually. “You know, with work and whatnot.”
“I know, dear,” Mrs. Jenkins sighed. “But he’s been like that. Sometimes I think he only sticks around for what I’ll leave him.”
That was all the confirmation I needed.
“You know, Marlene,” I said. “You don’t have to leave everything to Steve. It might be nice to donate some to charity or leave something for the people who have always been there for you. That’s a sweet gesture. Think about it.”
“You’re right, Debbie,” she said. “I’ll think about it.”
A week later, Mrs. Jenkins updated her will. Steve still got his share, but she also included several charities to get vast portions of her estate. She left a little something for me, too, though I didn’t ask for it.
It wasn’t about the money. It was about showing Steve that neglect and greed have consequences.
When Steve found out, he stormed to my house, knocking furiously on my door.
“You convinced my mother to give away my inheritance? You manipulative little…”
I cut him off before he could finish his sentence.
“I didn’t convince her of anything. Maybe if you spent more time with her, you’d know what she really wanted.”
Steve spluttered, his face turning red. He shouted a few more insults and stormed off, but I could see it in his eyes.
He knew that he had lost.
Now, the lovely Mrs. Jenkins is happier than ever, and I’m taking her to the ballet later this week. Steve is sulking, likely regretting all the time he wasted.
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And as for me? I’m happy knowing that Mrs. Jenkins isn’t being taken advantage of by Steve.
Sometimes, the best revenge is just letting someone realize their own failure.
What would you have done?
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Rinsing rice before cooking is one of those kitchen debates that has people split down the middle. For many, it’s as automatic as preheating an oven before baking. But for others, skipping this step is a matter of tradition, convenience, or simply a belief that it’s unnecessary. When it comes to rice, opinions run deep, and the topic of whether rinsing is truly essential has sparked countless conversations, like the one about a mother-in-law who cooked rice without rinsing it, leaving her family hesitant to eat it. So, is rinsing rice a non-negotiable step?
Why Rinsing Rice Feels Like a Must for Many
For those who swear by rinsing rice, it’s not just a chore—it’s an essential part of the cooking process. The primary reason? Cleanliness. Rinsing removes excess starch, which can make the rice overly sticky or gummy when cooked. It also helps get rid of any dust, debris, or impurities that might have clung to the rice during packaging and transport.
Another reason is texture. Fluffy rice with distinct grains often requires rinsing to eliminate the surface starch that causes clumping. This is especially important for dishes like pilafs or fried rice, where individual grains are key to the dish’s appeal.
But for some, rinsing rice isn’t just about function—it’s about honoring culinary traditions passed down for generations.
Why Some People Don’t Rinse Their Rice
On the flip side, there are plenty of households where rinsing rice isn’t part of the routine. Why? One reason could be cultural traditions. In certain cuisines, rice preparation doesn’t emphasize rinsing, especially when dealing with enriched or fortified rice.
Modern rice processing methods also play a role. Many people believe that rice sold today is already clean and doesn’t need an additional rinse. Some even argue that rinsing enriched rice removes the nutrients that are added during fortification, which defeats the purpose of choosing fortified grains in the first place.
Convenience is another factor. Let’s face it: rinsing rice can feel like an extra step, especially on busy nights when you’re just trying to get dinner on the table.
The Science of Rinsing: What’s Really Happening?
Here’s where things get technical. Rinsing rice serves two main purposes: removing starch and clearing away impurities.
- Excess starch: When rice is milled, grains can rub against each other, creating a fine layer of starch. If you cook rice without rinsing, that starch dissolves into the water and creates a gummy texture. While this stickiness might work for sushi or risotto, it’s less ideal for fluffy basmati or jasmine rice.
- Impurities and residues: Depending on where and how the rice is processed, there may be traces of dust, pesticides, or other residues on the grains. Rinsing helps wash these away, providing peace of mind, especially for those who prioritize cleanliness in food preparation.
For those who skip rinsing, pre-packaged rice types like parboiled or pre-washed varieties might be the go-to choice, as these are less likely to contain impurities.
The Health Concerns: Is It Unsafe Not to Rinse Rice?
Not rinsing rice isn’t inherently dangerous, but it could carry some minor risks. While most commercial rice is processed in hygienic conditions, traces of dust, dirt, or even pesticides can sometimes remain on the grains.
For families, especially those with young children, the idea of potential contaminants might be enough reason to rinse. Even if the health risks are minimal, the peace of mind that comes from rinsing rice can make it worth the effort.
Cultural Perspectives on Rinsing Rice
Rinsing rice is deeply rooted in cultural practices, and these traditions shape how rice is prepared around the world.
In many Asian households, rinsing rice is non-negotiable. It’s often done multiple times until the water runs clear, symbolizing care and respect for the food. In Japanese cuisine, for instance, the rice-washing process (referred to as “togiru”) is almost ritualistic.
In contrast, Western cooking practices may not emphasize rinsing as much, especially when using pre-washed or enriched rice. This difference highlights how diverse and adaptable rice preparation can be.
Balancing Convenience, Health, and Tradition
The choice to rinse or not often comes down to personal priorities. Some prioritize the traditions they grew up with, while others focus on saving time or retaining added nutrients.
If you’re torn, consider the type of rice you’re using. Long-grain varieties like basmati or jasmine typically benefit from rinsing for a better texture, while pre-packaged, parboiled, or enriched rice might not require it.
It’s all about striking a balance. For some, rinsing rice is an expression of care and attention to detail. For others, it’s an unnecessary step that adds time to meal prep. Neither approach is “wrong.”
What About the Kids? Parental Concerns About Unrinsed Rice
For parents, the stakes feel higher. After all, feeding your kids means ensuring they get safe, healthy meals. If there’s even a slight chance that unrinsed rice could have impurities, many parents would rather rinse and err on the side of caution.
But beyond safety, there’s an educational aspect. Teaching kids about food preparation—including why rinsing rice is important—can instill good habits and an understanding of food hygiene.
So, Is Rinsing Rice Necessary?
At the end of the day, whether or not you rinse rice comes down to personal preference, cultural background, and the type of rice you’re cooking. If you value fluffiness, cleanliness, and tradition, rinsing is the way to go. If convenience or retaining nutrients in fortified rice matters more to you, skipping it is perfectly fine.
Whatever you decide, the key is to enjoy the meal—and maybe spark a lively conversation about it over dinner. After all, food isn’t just about sustenance; it’s about the stories and traditions we share along the way.
So, whether you’re rinsing rice until the water runs crystal clear or tossing it straight into the pot, the most important thing is to savor the experience.
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