Anne Hegerty, known from The Chase, shared that her biggest fear about dating is having a man invade her personal space.
The quizzer, who was diagnosed with autism at 45, opened up about her challenges, mentioning a time when she unplugged her phone to stop a boyfriend from contacting her.
At The Paul Strank Roofing Charity Gala in Kensington, London, she honestly said that she thinks she would make a terrible partner.
Anne, 66, said, “I really struggle with being close to others and having anyone else in the house.
“I think a lot of autistic people don’t get married or settle down.”
Anne explained, “I don’t even have pets because of this, and my ability to live with other people is getting smaller. I need a lot of alone time.
“I always feel like I need more space than anyone can give me. If I wanted a relationship, I could find one, but honestly, I don’t.”
She also mentioned that her longest relationship only lasted four months. Reflecting on that time, she said, “It only worked for those few months because I was in Manchester. I kind of set it up so it wouldn’t last.”
In the end, she wrote to him to end things. “I remember crying with relief and then crying with guilt,” she shared.
Anne felt overwhelmed during that relationship. “Sometimes, I unplugged the phone because he tried to call me every day. I just wanted it to be over.
“I’d sit there waiting for the phone to ring, thinking, ‘Don’t phone, don’t phone, don’t phone!’ Other times, to get over the waiting, I’d call him, but that made him think I wanted to talk. I really just wanted to end it. I didn’t want to talk to him or anyone!”
Anne joked that she hasn’t lacked offers from admirers who seem to like her “Mrs. Trunchbull” Governess outfit.
She said, “I’m sure some people are attracted to the whole look of The Governess. I think there are some who might be interested if they let me.”
Anne said, “I do meet attractive men, but I know it won’t work out. I feel like it’s not fair to them because I won’t treat them well.”
She added, “I always want more space than they can give me. If I wanted a relationship, I could find someone, but I don’t.”
She thinks it’s better not to date at all and enjoys having men as friends more than women. She recalled a quiz she attended in June, where a woman pointed out they were the only two women in the room, but Anne hadn’t even noticed because she was talking to her male friends.
Anne also shared that this is part of why she never had children, even though she is great with kids. “I did want children, but I knew I wouldn’t be able to handle it very well.”
About 20 years ago, two kids from her neighborhood used to come over. “We limited their visits to just one hour a day, but they always wanted to stay longer. They were wonderful kids, and we’re now friends on Facebook, but I couldn’t handle that for more than an hour.”
Anne takes her role as godmother to Mark “Beast” Labbett’s eight-year-old son, Lawrence, very seriously.
She said, “Lawrence’s birthday is at the end of November, so I usually send a birthday and Christmas present at the same time—but they are not the same gift. My parents had winter birthdays, and I knew they hated getting just one present for two celebrations.”
Anne joked that one of the gifts she gave Lawrence was a bit inappropriate—a toy crossbow. “So, weaponry,” she laughed. “But lately, I’ve been giving him Minecraft vouchers since he really loves that.”
She also mentioned that she has spent Christmas alone for the past 40 years. That’s why she’s especially happy to be playing the Fairy Godmother in this year’s panto, Cinderella, in Scarborough.
Anne, who was on I’m A Celebrity… Get Me Out Of Here in 2018, said, “Now that I’m in panto, I can say, ‘Sorry, I’m in Scarborough!’ and that’s my only day off.”
She sees it as a great day off. Even though many people invite her to spend Christmas with them, she prefers not to. “I don’t do Christmas dinner or a tree. When I was a kid, I just remember all the pine needles everywhere!”
Earlier this year, Anne took on another acting role, making a cameo as a neighbor in a film called Exorcising Barry, which is about a man obsessed with a demon.
Anne said that any chance of going to Hollywood is out of the question.
She explained, “America wouldn’t want me because I’m fat. I have a friend who went there for work, and even though she looks amazing, they told her she needed to lose weight. I’m fine with how I am, but they don’t like fat British actresses.”
Despite this, she has had great success in Britain. Talking about The Chase’s recent National Television Award win, she said, “I’m so happy. Bradley Walsh is amazing. It’s been 14 years, and I love it.”
She added, “Other kids used to sing in front of the mirror with a hairbrush. When I was younger, I practiced being interviewed for when I became famous. I don’t know why, but it’s always been my dream.”
5 Things Men Do When They Have Strong Romantic Feelings for You
Feel like you’re having trouble deciphering mixed signals? Don’t worry! A man’s actions frequently speak louder than words when he is genuinely attracted to you but lacks the confidence to admit. Even if he seems cool, there are five surefire signs that he is utterly enamored with you:
1. He Gives You a Lot of Stares
Has it ever seemed like you’re being watched closely? That’s because he’s always glancing in your direction! A man’s eyes follow you around the room with an almost tangible intensity when he is feeling romantically inclined. If you manage to catch him in the act, he might give you a charming smile to indicate that he’s been thinking about you!
2. He Wants to Be Near You All the Time
Like a magnet to steel, he will look for any opportunity to get close to you. He wants your company more than water in a desert, whether it’s by “happenstance” showing up at your favorite coffee shop or sitting next to you at social events. He may show up at worship sites, participate in your activities, or just hang around with you. Your presence makes the world seem a little brighter to him.
3. He Displays His Weak Side to You
Hold on, did he just reveal his worst fears and earliest recollections? A man who shows his weaknesses to you is showing you that he trusts you beyond everyone else. Since he views you as his confidante and soul mate, he won’t be afraid to be himself. Therefore, he’s clearly into you if he’s opening up to you during those late-night chats.
4. He Constantly Texts, Calls, and Chats with You
You can seem to get straight to his heart through his phone. No matter how busy he is, he will find time for constant talks, calls, and texts. He wants to be the last person you think of, whether it’s through late-night texts that make you blush or early morning messages that brighten your day. Who is the first person he tells if anything extraordinary occurs in his life? Yes, you are correct!
5. He Attempts to Laugh at You
Have you ever encountered someone who is constantly trying to make you laugh? That’s who he is! When a man is in love with you, he will do anything to make you smile. His aim is your happiness, whether it’s by bringing you to comedy shows or posting amusing memes. He’s riding the happiness wave right beside you, that’s why.
That’s it, dear! These seemingly inconsequential little acts of affection are actually treasure troves of love. He’s clearly into you if he’s showing any of these symptoms. Don’t only hold out for him to declare his love for you. Acts can occasionally speak louder than words. And his loving gaze, considerate actions, and ceaseless messaging are shouting it from the rooftops, honey!
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