One night, I realized something was wrong when my wife didn’t come home from work by 11 p.m. This was unusual because she always texted if she’d be late. When I called her, she claimed to be working late, but her voice trembled.
This pattern continued, raising my concern. One night, I found her crying in the living room. She blamed pregnancy hormones, but I sensed a deeper issue.
I discovered her coworkers were bullying her, offloading their work onto her and mocking her. Seeing this, I decided to intervene. I confronted her tormentors, making it clear I knew what they were doing and would take legal action if necessary. This encounter, which I didn’t tell my wife about, led to an immediate change—she started coming home earlier, happier.
Despite the improvement, the bullying had left scars. I realized my role was to support her, not just confront the bullies. We sought therapy and focused on preparing for our baby, finding joy and strength together.
Our daughter’s birth was a symbol of hope. As I watched my wife with our newborn, I felt immense gratitude and love. I hope she leaves that toxic job, but regardless, I will always stand by her.
This journey taught us the power of love, support, and resilience. For anyone facing similar challenges, remember you’re not alone. Stand up against bullying, lean on loved ones, and believe in the power of kindness. Our story, marked by struggle and triumph, is a testament to love and unity.
Why Do Married Couples in Japan Sleep Separately
Smaller houses and apartments don’t stop many Japanese couples from sleeping in different beds or even rooms. This is not some kind of an intimate issue or problem with the relationship, but something that they believe is good for them.
We at Bright Side found out why married couples in Japan choose to sleep separately, and we really like their reasons.
They have different sleep schedules.
The first thing that makes Japanese couples decide to go to bed separately is different work schedules. Waking up your significant other just because you got home late from work or have to leave early won’t result in good quality rest for them. This is why spending the night in a different room makes sense. This will give them both an undisturbed and healthier sleep.
Babies sleep with their mothers.
Japanese mothers sleep with their children and this is considered very important, so the father needs to decide if he wants to share the same bed or go to a different room. Even science has proven that co-sleeping can help parents and children get a more restful sleep. It helps the child to maintain a stable temperature and heart rate (which is really critical in infancy) and at the same time, it decreases the chance of sudden infant death syndrome. Also, this contributes to the child having better self-esteem, becoming independent faster, and doing great in school.
For them, sleeping separately means peace.
While many couples who start to sleep alone think that divorce is at their door, the Japanese see it differently. They value their sleep a lot and they don’t want to be disturbed while sleeping. This means that they don’t need and don’t like to put up with snoring, restless sleep, kicking, etc. Even though some don’t have the opportunity to sleep in different rooms, they still wish they could get their beauty sleep.
Couples have a history of sleeping separately.
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Futons are filled with cotton, which provides support and comfort. In the past, only single sized ones were used as beds. So, even if you wanted to cuddle up with your loved one, you would have ended up between the sheets, on the cold floor, and you wouldn’t feel comfortable. Today there are families that still use this type of bedding, especially because it doesn’t take up a lot of space and it is easy to store.
Do you sleep separately from your partner? Do you think this type of practice might be even better for your relationship?
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