According to a survey, only 14% of couples sleep in separate beds every night. And while many of us might believe in the saying “couples who sleep apart grow apart” there are studies that show the opposite is actually true.
We at Bright Side believe that there are no wrong or right sleep arrangements, because to some, sleeping in different beds can be as pleasing as for others sharing a bed with their partner.
A poor night’s sleep can turn lovers into fighters.
According to research, sharing a bed with a partner that has restless sleep behavior can deprive you of 49 minutes of sleep each night. And, when one partner doesn’t get a proper night’s sleep because of the other, it will most likely result in a conflict between them the next day.
Actually, the study even confirmed that couples who tend to have a poor night’s sleep have more severe and more frequent fights than those who wake up well-rested. People who get a good night’s sleep, on the other hand, are more likely to be in a good mood, have lower stress levels, and be more patient.
Resenting your partner because you can’t get a good night’s sleep can be destructive to the relationship.
Snoring, fidgeting, and bed or blanket hogging are just a few of many reasons why some couples choose to sleep in different beds or even in different bedrooms. Lying awake listening to your partner snoring while you beat yourself up to fall asleep can lead to a build-up of anger, tension, and resentment toward your partner.
According to Jennifer Adams, author of Sleeping Apart Not Falling Apart, sleeping in a separate bedroom can even help a relationship thrive because both partners are not sleep deprived.
Each partner can tailor their sleeping conditions to their heart’s content.
Tina Cooper, a licensed social worker, sleeps in different bedrooms with her partner because of their opposite sleeping habits. “I’m a night owl, he’s an early bird. I need soothing sounds to fall asleep, and he likes silence. He likes a hard mattress, and I like soft and full of pillows. And because I don’t like the early day’s sunlight, my boyfriend gave me the master bedroom which gets less light and he has the second largest room that gets the sunrise he loves.”
How you spend the nighttime in your shared bedroom with your partner can also influence your daytime functioning, marital satisfaction, and psychological and physical health. And when 2 people with different bedtime preferences and nighttime schedules end up together, changing themselves just to please their partner’s needs might harm their relationship in the long run.
Sleeping in different bedrooms with your partner means that the 2 of you will have a place just for yourselves where you can relax after an exhausting day. This way, both of you can satisfy your needs without tiptoeing around and worrying about whether your partner might wake up because you want to watch the latest episode of your show before bed.
Even if you don’t remember waking up, disturbed sleep can have a negative impact on your overall health.
During the night, our brain cycles through the stages of sleep several times: light sleep, deep sleep, and REM (Rapid eye movement sleep). But when you interrupt the cycle by waking up during the night, it means that your brain spends more time in the light sleep stage and misses out on REM. And without sufficient REM your emotional well-being and cognitive performance suffer.
Interrupted sleep can also have short and long-term health consequences, like hypertension, weight-related issues, mental health problems, reduced quality of life, and other health-related issues.
People on Reddit share why they decided to sleep separately with their partner.
- “Because a good night’s sleep is more romantic than sharing a bed. I snore and toss and turn. He gives off literal village levels of heat in his sleep and I can’t stand the heat. I read, he can’t stand light. We keep different hours to an extent. A million reasons. We get along so much better this way.” — crankyweasels
- “My partner and I have completely separate bedrooms. We ’sleepover’ occasionally in each other’s rooms. However, we both sleep exponentially better apart. He’s a night owl and I’m an early bird. He wants only one sheet on him, I want 10 lbs of blankets. In addition, having a separate room allows me to decorate it however I want, have my own personal space, and keep it to the level of cleanliness I prefer. People look at us sideways when I mention the separate rooms thing, but it’s been a game-changer.” — eriasana
- “Different sleep cycles due to different work schedules. We are still madly in love and we both agreed to this because it’s the best for both of us.” — AFishInATank
- “Early in our relationship, 90% of our fights occurred in the bedroom. I like to sleep in a cold room with the fan on and white noise like a box fan. I also like to go to sleep with the TV on. She likes to sleep in a warm, still, cave in complete silence and darkness. We started sleeping in separate rooms and all of a sudden 90% of our fights stopped. Also, because we were getting real sleep, other fights turned more into heated discussions.” — ttc8420
What are your sleeping arrangements with your partner? Do you believe sleeping in different beds can help a relationship thrive?
Leonardo DiCaprio, 49, declares that with $300M in assets, he only dates girls under 25 years old
One of Hollywood’s most well-known actors, Leonardo DiCaprio, has made headlines once more, but this time it’s not because of his acting skills or environmental activism. The actor, 49, whose estimated net worth is $300 million, recently stated that he prefers to date ladies under the age of 25, which sparked a lot of conversation and debate.
Famous for his parts in blockbuster movies like “The Wolf of Wall Street,” “Titanic,” and “Inception,” Leonardo DiCaprio has always piqued the interest of the media, both for his personal life and his acting prowess. His associations with younger ladies have come up frequently throughout the years. In his past, DiCaprio has been involved in a number of high-profile partnerships with actresses and models, many of whom were considerably younger than he was.
DiCaprio discussed his relationship choices in an open letter, blaming them on a mix of lifestyle compatibility and personal preference. “At this point in my life, I would rather date younger women,” he said. They offer a distinct vibe and viewpoint, and I find it appealing. He continued by saying that although having a sizable amount of money gives him flexibility in many areas of his life, his love inclinations are more motivated by a desire for closeness than by money.
DiCaprio’s remarks have sparked a variety of responses. His taste, according to his detractors, supports the alarming trend of older men dating considerably younger women, which might bolster unfavorable social norms regarding relationships and age. They raise concerns about whether these partnerships are founded on equal footing and point out that these dynamics frequently highlight problems of power imbalance.
Conversely, advocates uphold DiCaprio’s autonomy to select the partners he desires, stressing that each individual is an adult who has given their consent. They contend that rather than emphasizing age differences, partnerships should be evaluated on their quality and mutual respect.
DiCaprio’s revelation has also spurred discussions about ageism and discriminatory practices in the film industry. Many note that whereas older women dating younger men usually face more scrutiny and criticism, older male celebrities dating younger women is commonly welcomed or even celebrated.
DiCaprio sticks to his lifestyle decisions regardless of what the general public thinks. He still strikes a satisfying balance between his personal life, work, and charitable endeavors. Being a vocal environmentalist, he shows that his impact goes well beyond his love life by using his position to push for immediate climate action and conservation initiatives.
Since personal lives in the entertainment business are frequently examined closely, DiCaprio’s candor on his dating choices enhances his public image. Regardless of one’s opinion of his decisions, his candor about his personal life encourages more comprehensive conversations about relationships, aging, and society expectations.
Leonardo DiCaprio’s decisions will surely continue to pique attention and controversy as he moves closer to the next phase of his life. He has had an incredible career and made major contributions to worthy causes. He is still a fascinating character whose deeds, both on and off screen, draw attention from all over the world.
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