Anne Hegerty, known from The Chase, shared that her biggest fear about dating is having a man invade her personal space.
The quizzer, who was diagnosed with autism at 45, opened up about her challenges, mentioning a time when she unplugged her phone to stop a boyfriend from contacting her.
At The Paul Strank Roofing Charity Gala in Kensington, London, she honestly said that she thinks she would make a terrible partner.
Anne, 66, said, “I really struggle with being close to others and having anyone else in the house.
“I think a lot of autistic people don’t get married or settle down.”
Anne explained, “I don’t even have pets because of this, and my ability to live with other people is getting smaller. I need a lot of alone time.
“I always feel like I need more space than anyone can give me. If I wanted a relationship, I could find one, but honestly, I don’t.”
She also mentioned that her longest relationship only lasted four months. Reflecting on that time, she said, “It only worked for those few months because I was in Manchester. I kind of set it up so it wouldn’t last.”
In the end, she wrote to him to end things. “I remember crying with relief and then crying with guilt,” she shared.
Anne felt overwhelmed during that relationship. “Sometimes, I unplugged the phone because he tried to call me every day. I just wanted it to be over.
“I’d sit there waiting for the phone to ring, thinking, ‘Don’t phone, don’t phone, don’t phone!’ Other times, to get over the waiting, I’d call him, but that made him think I wanted to talk. I really just wanted to end it. I didn’t want to talk to him or anyone!”
Anne joked that she hasn’t lacked offers from admirers who seem to like her “Mrs. Trunchbull” Governess outfit.
She said, “I’m sure some people are attracted to the whole look of The Governess. I think there are some who might be interested if they let me.”
Anne said, “I do meet attractive men, but I know it won’t work out. I feel like it’s not fair to them because I won’t treat them well.”
She added, “I always want more space than they can give me. If I wanted a relationship, I could find someone, but I don’t.”
She thinks it’s better not to date at all and enjoys having men as friends more than women. She recalled a quiz she attended in June, where a woman pointed out they were the only two women in the room, but Anne hadn’t even noticed because she was talking to her male friends.
Anne also shared that this is part of why she never had children, even though she is great with kids. “I did want children, but I knew I wouldn’t be able to handle it very well.”
About 20 years ago, two kids from her neighborhood used to come over. “We limited their visits to just one hour a day, but they always wanted to stay longer. They were wonderful kids, and we’re now friends on Facebook, but I couldn’t handle that for more than an hour.”
Anne takes her role as godmother to Mark “Beast” Labbett’s eight-year-old son, Lawrence, very seriously.
She said, “Lawrence’s birthday is at the end of November, so I usually send a birthday and Christmas present at the same time—but they are not the same gift. My parents had winter birthdays, and I knew they hated getting just one present for two celebrations.”
Anne joked that one of the gifts she gave Lawrence was a bit inappropriate—a toy crossbow. “So, weaponry,” she laughed. “But lately, I’ve been giving him Minecraft vouchers since he really loves that.”
She also mentioned that she has spent Christmas alone for the past 40 years. That’s why she’s especially happy to be playing the Fairy Godmother in this year’s panto, Cinderella, in Scarborough.
Anne, who was on I’m A Celebrity… Get Me Out Of Here in 2018, said, “Now that I’m in panto, I can say, ‘Sorry, I’m in Scarborough!’ and that’s my only day off.”
She sees it as a great day off. Even though many people invite her to spend Christmas with them, she prefers not to. “I don’t do Christmas dinner or a tree. When I was a kid, I just remember all the pine needles everywhere!”
Earlier this year, Anne took on another acting role, making a cameo as a neighbor in a film called Exorcising Barry, which is about a man obsessed with a demon.
Anne said that any chance of going to Hollywood is out of the question.
She explained, “America wouldn’t want me because I’m fat. I have a friend who went there for work, and even though she looks amazing, they told her she needed to lose weight. I’m fine with how I am, but they don’t like fat British actresses.”
Despite this, she has had great success in Britain. Talking about The Chase’s recent National Television Award win, she said, “I’m so happy. Bradley Walsh is amazing. It’s been 14 years, and I love it.”
She added, “Other kids used to sing in front of the mirror with a hairbrush. When I was younger, I practiced being interviewed for when I became famous. I don’t know why, but it’s always been my dream.”
Man Receives an Anonymous Package on the 1st Anniversary of His Wife’s Death—He Bursts Into Tears Upon Opening It
On the first anniversary of his wife’s passing, Samuel answered an unexpected knock at the door. The anonymous package he received held a mysterious blue scarf and a heartfelt note from his late wife that would reveal a deeply personal secret.
Samuel sat at the coffee table, his hands wrapped around a mug of coffee that had long gone cold. The morning sun filtered through the blinds, painting soft lines on the floor.
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Before him lay a photograph of him and Stephanie on their wedding day. Her smile lit up the picture, just as it had lit up his life.
He picked up the photo and stared at it, his fingers brushing the frame. “It’s been a year, Steph,” he whispered. “Feels like yesterday. Feels like forever.”
A middle-aged couple on their wedding day | Source: Midjourney
The house was quiet, save for the occasional creak of the old floorboards. Samuel sighed, setting the picture back down. The silence had become his constant companion. It wasn’t comforting. It was loud, echoing every memory and missed moment.
He leaned back, rubbing his temples. “I’m trying to move on,” he muttered, though he wasn’t sure who he was talking to. “But it’s hard, Steph. So damn hard.”
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Just then, a knock at the door jolted him from his thoughts.
“Who on earth…” he mumbled, pushing himself up from the chair. He shuffled toward the door, his heart heavy with reluctance.
When he opened it, a young delivery man stood there, holding a plain brown package.
“Samuel?” the man asked, tilting his head.
“Yeah,” Samuel replied, his brow furrowing.
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“This is for you. Anonymous sender.”
Samuel hesitated, then reached out to take the package. “Thanks.”
The delivery man gave a polite nod. “Have a good day, sir.”
Samuel closed the door and stood there for a moment, staring at the package. It wasn’t large, but it was heavy enough to pique his curiosity.
A man looking at a package in his hands | Source: Midjourney
“What is this?” he muttered, carrying it back to the table. He sat down and ran his fingers over the paper, his heart picking up speed. Carefully, he peeled away the wrapping.
Inside was a long, soft, blue scarf. Samuel held it up, letting it unfold. The fabric felt warm against his skin, and the intricate patterns caught his eye.
“What in the world…” he murmured.
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As he examined it, a small envelope fell out. His hands shook as he picked it up. He knew that handwriting.
“No,” he whispered, his voice breaking. He opened the envelope and pulled out a letter.
“My dear Sam,
When we married, I wanted to make something special for you, something that would grow as our love did. Every time you told me you loved me, I knitted a row of a scarf. I wanted you to know that with every word, my heart grew, too.”
A woman knitting a scarf | Source: Midjourney
“What… how long is this?” Samuel muttered to himself.
Setting the letter aside, he gently picked up the scarf, stretching it out to its full length. He began to count the rows, his voice barely above a whisper.
“One… two… three…”
A man with a blue scar | Source: Midjourney
The rhythm of the numbers steadied him, pulling him into a trance. He counted every row, his mind filling with memories of the times he had told Stephanie he loved her. Over coffee in the morning. Before falling asleep at night. During a quiet walk in the park. In moments of laughter, and in moments of tears.
“…fifty-seven, fifty-eight, fifty-nine…”
A happy couple in their living room | Source: Midjourney
The numbers climbed higher, and with each one, Samuel felt his chest tighten. His fingers brushed over the stitches as he continued counting.
When he finally reached the end, he sat back, his voice shaking. “A thousand… over a thousand rows.”
He pressed the scarf against his chest, his heart aching. Each row represented a moment between them, a declaration of love that she had captured forever in the fabric.
A man clutching a scarf in his hands | Source: Midjourney
But then, he noticed something strange. Near one end, the stitches changed. They were tighter, smaller, as though rushed. Samuel squinted, leaning closer. Woven into the fabric in faint white thread were the words:
“Look at the back of my drawer in our bedroom.”
Samuel’s heart pounded. His breath quickened. He looked toward the hallway, where their bedroom waited.
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“Steph,” he whispered again, gripping the scarf tightly.
And then he stood, the scarf draped over his arm, and began to walk.
Samuel stopped just outside the bedroom door. His hand touched the doorknob, his heart pounding like a drum.
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The room smelled faintly of lavender, her favorite scent. The sunlight streamed through the curtains, illuminating everything she had left behind. Samuel’s eyes settled on the bedside table, her drawer.
He moved toward it slowly, his fingers trembling as he reached out. “Back of the drawer,” he murmured, repeating her words.
A man looking though his bedroom drawer | Source: Midjourney
The drawer slid open with a soft creak. It was filled with little things—her favorite lotion, an old paperback novel, a small box of jewelry. But as he reached toward the back, his fingers brushed against something unfamiliar.
It was an envelope. His name was written on it in Stephanie’s elegant handwriting.
Samuel sat down on the bed, holding the envelope in his hands. He hesitated, feeling the weight of whatever lay inside. Finally, he opened it.
A man reading a letter on his bed | Source: Midjourney
“Sam,
I know you’re wondering why I had to leave you so soon. Life can be cruel like that. But there’s something you need to know—something I couldn’t tell you before I left.
I was pregnant.
We were going to have a baby, Sam.”
A serious woman writing a letter | Source: Midjourney
Samuel’s hands shook as he read the words. He stopped and pressed the letter to his chest, his tears spilling freely.
“Oh, Steph,” he whispered, his voice breaking.
He continued reading.
A man reading a letter | Source: Midjourney
“I found out just weeks before my diagnosis. The doctors said the treatments would harm the baby, but I couldn’t bear the thought of leaving you alone. So, I chose the treatments. I chose to fight, for us. But in the end, it wasn’t enough.
I’m so sorry I didn’t tell you. I didn’t want you to carry that burden. But I hope you can forgive me and know that my choice came from love. You gave me the happiest years of my life, and I wanted to give us a chance at more.”
A sad woman rereading her letter | Source: Midjourney
Samuel sat on the edge of the bed, the scarf still draped across his lap. He stared at Stephanie’s letter, her words echoing in his mind.
I was pregnant.
A devastated man holding a letter | Source: Midjourney
The revelation hit him like a wave, pulling him under. He leaned forward, resting his elbows on his knees, his hands covering his face. The grief swelled, but this time it wasn’t the hollow ache he had carried for a year. It was sharper, layered with love and loss, raw and undeniable.
“She chose me,” he whispered, his voice trembling. “She always chose me.”
A crying middle-aged man holding a photo | Source: Pexels
The scarf, now folded neatly in his lap, seemed heavier than before. Samuel ran his fingers over it, feeling the texture, the time, the care.
“You never stopped loving me, not even at the end,” he murmured.
A man with a blue scarf on his lap | Source: Midjourney
The weight of her sacrifice and the life they could have had together pressed down on him, but beneath it was a flicker of something else. Gratitude. Gratitude for the love they had shared, for the moments she had fought to give him.
Samuel stood, clutching the scarf to his chest. He walked to the window and looked out at the world beyond the glass. The sunlight seemed a little brighter, the air a little lighter.
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He unfolded the scarf and wrapped it around his neck, the soft fabric brushing against his skin. It felt like a hug, a reminder that Stephanie was still with him in some way.
“I’ll keep my promise, Steph,” he said quietly. “I’ll live. I’ll love. I’ll find joy again for both of us.”
The words felt heavy, but they also felt right.
A smiling man in a blue scarf | Source: Midjourney
Samuel turned back to the bedroom. He picked up the letter and carefully tucked it back into the envelope. He placed it in the drawer where he’d found it, next to her favorite book. It wasn’t a farewell—it was a way of keeping her close while letting himself move forward.
Back in the living room, he glanced at the photograph on the table. Her wide smile and her warm eyes were urging him on.
A smiling woman in her garden | Source: Midjourney
Samuel picked up the picture frame and held it for a moment. “Thank you, Steph,” he whispered. “For everything.”
The house felt different now. The silence wasn’t as oppressive; it was calmer, almost comforting. Samuel knew there would still be hard days ahead, moments when the loss would feel fresh and sharp. But for the first time in a year, he felt something else: the possibility of healing.
A smiling man in his living room | Source: Midjourney
He walked to the front door, opening it wide. The crisp morning air greeted him, carrying the faint scent of blooming flowers. He stepped outside, the scarf snug around his neck, and looked up at the sky.
“I love you, Steph,” he said softly, his voice carried away by the wind.
And as he stood there, bathed in the sunlight, Samuel felt something he hadn’t felt in a long time: hope.
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